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I have quit drinking and started again about 4 times in the last 5 years, because I'm not enough of an alcoholic... Let me explain. When you have a "real problem", your life will usually start to implode. You'll become unreliable, perhaps even unbearable for others to be around. Your friends and family will talk - you'll probably even get taken aside and told it's time to get help. This will likely see you get into some kind of recovery programme - and from hence forth t

I have... So a little while ago my friend messaged me to ask if I wanted to come to an over 40 singles night. My actual, out-loud answer was FUCK NO. 😱 Then she said, "you can just come as my wing woman," and something in me relaxed enough to say yes. Because if I wasn't the one hunting, I didn't have to admit I was putting myself out there at all. Clever, right? 😏 I built a whole story around it in the days before. I'm just supporting my friend. It'll be weird and aw

Coaching | Podcast | GUIDED VISUALISATION Introducing: The Create Yourself Podcast IF YOU DIDN'T HAVE TO BE PERFECT, HOW WOULD YOU SHOW UP? Hi friends! Not gonna lie - it was a heck of a lot easier talking about doing a podcast than actually DOING A PODCAST. But that’s just how I roll. I pick something new, with no training or understanding of how to actually do it, then I tell everyone that I’m doing it and hope like hell I can figure it out… And thankfully, this time I did

Woman sitting on the couch, looking out the window. I’ve been a bit quiet lately. At first I put it down to taking a break, because I did send myself off on a little Easter excursion to the family for a week and a bit. But then I got back, and my son went away with his dad, and I just felt… uninspired. I didn’t feel like working, or creating, or doing anything that my best self enjoys. All of those nourishing things just kind of went out the window, and I found myself sat on

Have you felt it? The shift in your energy? The feeling inside you that craves something new and exciting? The change of season is more than just a temperature shift. Although sure, the light is changing, the leaves are now falling and you're probably reaching for pieces in your wardrobe that you haven’t seen in months, but the change of season is more than just optics. It's creating a shift inside you. This feeling, this invisible surge of energy can be subtle, or it can be

There’s a moment in midlife where something tiny - a haircut, a choice, a split-second impulse - becomes the catalyst for a much bigger liberation. This is mine. At the 2025 Met Gala, the iconic Pamela Anderson stepped out to showcase a new, shorter hairstyle, avec a bold and highly controversial microfringe. (If you’re wondering what this is, imagine a fringe so short it basically has a different postcode to your eyebrows.) Pamela totally rocked this brave look, and the whol

This year I got some pro shots done for my website, right before I went in for the most invasive procedure of my life - a shoulder reconstruction. How are the two related I hear you ask... Well, you see while I was in recovery I fell into a bit of a dark place. My workflow dried up (thanks NZ economy), my sleep was next to impossible (try sleeping upright, you'll see what I mean), and with only one arm and no inspiration, the girl that featured in all of these really inspirin

Over the weekend I went to a couple of dance classes. Nothing fancy - just the ones my gym puts on. You know how it goes, loud music, energetic instructors and a whole lot of uncoordinated souls spinning in opposing directions with admirable intentions. (Me being one of them...) And maybe it's an age thing. Maybe I've just surpassed the "give a damn" threshold because I know the days ahead are now roughly equivalent that of those behind me, but I just want to do more things t

Change is hard. If it was easy, we’d all do it without hesitation. Change can look like leaving situations, people, places, and many other fundamental aspects of the very life that has defined your existence. Change can look like shifting away from things that make you feel safe. It can look like disappointing the people you love in service of allowing yourself the things you desire. Change can feel selfish. Isolating. Terrifying. But just know that these are all totally natu

I’m sat here at swimming lessons, watching my 6-year-old thrash about wildly (and sometimes swim), and I’m reflecting on something he...

It all started with a fall down the stairs. One morning, while feeling groggy and distracted, I attempted a journey I'd taken many, many...